When God says wait…

We live in a world that is constantly on the go. Waiting hardly ever has to happen and when it does, it tends to make us frustrated!

Frustrated that we have to wait on our food to finish cooking at a “fast food” joint….

Frustrated that we have to wait for the YouTube video to load…

Frustrated that we have to wait at the doctor’s office…


But should it?

I’ve found myself in a new season of wait. There’s been several times I’ve waited in the ministry. Waited for the right church to call us, waited for my husband to get home after being gone ALL day doing “preacher stuff”. Waited for church members to wake up and see what’s happening. But this time, it’s personal. I’m waiting. Not on a church. Not on my husband. Not on church members. Nope, I’m waiting for God. I know what He wants and I’m willing- but there is this wait process.

So, I wait.

Yes, at times I wait and I utter the cries of frustration, but I want to grow in this season of wait. God and I- we talk- a lot. He shows me verses like Deuteronomy 33:3 “Indeed, he loves his people; all his holy ones are in his hands. They follow in his steps and accept his teaching.” and Psalm 27:14 “Wait on the Lord, be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart; wait, I say, on the Lord.” And I cling to them. I fight the battles from the Devil where he tries to convince me to be impatient, ugly, frustrated, and defeated. It’s a daily battle to wait upon the Lord. It’s a daily battle to be obedient to Him- especially when He says wait.

Instead of being frustrated, when I’m feeling impatient, I pray. I turn on praise music. I sit at the piano and play to my Lord. I talk to other people in the ministry- because they’re the only ones who TRULY “get it”. And I wait…

Are you in a season of wait? What do you do?

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Ministry Living

In the (almost) 16 years that I’ve been married to my pastor-hubby, we have moved to 8 churches. I think we’ve lived at close to 20 different addresses over that same time. There were times we moved two or three times in one town- mostly due to the fact that we were renting our home and for various reasons needed to move. Some of those moves could have been avoided had we been smarter in our early years of marriage, but some of those moves would have happened regardless.

Here I am, though, knowing that sometime in the coming days we will be moving- again. We will add another number to the church count, another number to the address count.

Some families in ministry seem to stay put forever in one location, but typically, moving is not uncommon to a pastor and his family. When God speaks, you go.

“Then I heard the Lord asking, “Whom should I send as a messenger to this people? Who will go for us?” I said, “Here I am. Send me.” Isaiah 6:8 We hear this and we answer the same way that Isaiah does. Even though it means moving away from family and friends.


In the circle of families living in the ministry, one family is preparing to head overseas for mission work… another family is preparing to leave the south and head north for mission work. One family is staying put, but knows that it is only a matter of time before they move. In the past year or two, several of our friends have relocated. It’s just part of life. Part of what it means to be obedient to God.

Our desire is simply to be obedient to Him and to go where He sends us. While we do not know any details, there is an awareness that God is ultimately going to move us from our current church. Our plan is to stay put- ministering here- until He reveals the next step. I’m sitting here knowing that God is leading us away from our current church, but not seeing anything on the horizon. When we’ve been here before, we had options ahead of us. Potential churches would be lined up weeks in advance. But this time, nothing.

I feel my faith being tested and in the end it will be strengthened. I don’t doubt God is in control and already has things lined up. Just because I can’t see it, doesn’t mean it isn’t there. After all, that is what living by faith is really about… believing even if you can’t see. Day in and day out, all I can do is breathe the same words that Isaiah did and that Big Daddy Weave used in a song and say “here I am, Lord, send me”.

Pray for us as we seek God’s direction in our life. The fiery darts from the Devil are already being flung in our direction.

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Gossip and the Preacher’s Family

Gossip is an ugly thing.

Sometimes it is a very hurtful thing.

I really don’t know why people feel the need to talk about others, but they do and targeting the preacher’s family is about as easy of a target as they come.

Are you moving? I heard you guys were moving….
Who did you hear that from?
Oh, you know… mutual friends. So, are you?

I heard your house was all packed up and you guys are going to leave in the middle of the night… I heard your kids are starting a new school… like tomorrow. I heard….


NOBODY needs to be talked about, ESPECIALLY a preacher’s family! They have SO much going on- stuff that you will NEVER know about much less understand- that they don’t need the extra drama of chitter chatter.

“In the multitude of words sin is not lacking, But he who restrains his lips is wise.” Proverbs 10:19

Trust me, when (if) someone wants you to know something, they’ll make it known. If you don’t hear from them directly, don’t repeat.

Instead of gossiping, pray. Pray for the person being talked about. Pray for the one you heard it from.

Go ahead, right now. Pray. Somebody needs your prayers right now. It may be your pastor, his wife, or their kids… It may be the fellow church member that sits at the end of your pew. It may be your neighbor or the lady that checks you out at Walmart. Stop what you’re doing and let the Holy Spirit prompt you in your prayer…

Have you been gossiped about? How did you handle it?

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5 Things I’ve Learned From Having Young Teens

I have young teenagers. My oldest is 14. My second oldest is 13. I also have an 11 year old and a 9 year old. I am NOT an expert at teenagers, but then again, who is?

There will be a lot I learn about teenagers in the next decade. And there is a lot that others know that I don’t- even at this stage- but maybe someone else has young teenagers and can at least feel like they aren’t alone.

Living with teenagers is not like living with toddlers. Granted, there can still be a lot of tears, but the tears are different. More intense. Usually because the tears don’t come from not being allowed a piece of candy, they come from heartache. Life with teenagers is definitely not for the faint of heart, but it can be very rewarding.

Here are a few things I’ve learned so far in my journey of being a parent to teenagers….

#1. You will learn to rely more and more on God. When they were little, you kept them safe. You decided what they could or couldn’t do, where they could or couldn’t go, what they could or couldn’t eat. You decided EVERYTHING! However, that isn’t a popular choice for parenting teenagers because our ultimate goal should be producing self-sufficient, respectful young adults and the only way that can happen is by giving THEM more and more freedom. As they spread their wings and test the waters- without your ever watchful eye always there- you learn to pray more for sure!!! I know I have!

#2. You will make mistakes and it is o.k. to tell your teen you are sorry! Look, parents, we are NOT perfect! We are ALL sinners saved by grace. Just because we’ve been on this earth for 20+ years longer than they have does NOT make us immune to mistakes! Each child is different, each situation is different, and there is not always a one way answer. Plus, let’s face it, we’re dealing with hormonal teenagers who are also sinners saved by grace. It’s bound to blow up sometimes. So admit you made a mistake, ask for forgiveness, and demonstrate Christ’s love and forgiveness when they make a mistake.

#3. There are ALWAYS consequences. I tell my kids this ALL the time. With teenagers, though, the consequences become bigger. You also cannot always bail them out. Teenagers need to live with their choices, but this is where demonstrating Christ’s love can come into play. They will make mistakes. Sometimes their mistakes are big. Sometimes their mistakes are shocking! Never let what your teenager did be a reason to not love them. There is punishment for sin- the Bible tells us the “wages of sin is death” (Romans 6:23)- but God loved us so much that the “gift of God is eternal life“. So yeah, let there be consequences, but never forget the love.

#4. Never stop reaching. When they were babies, you held them while you rocked them to sleep. When they were toddlers, you held grimy hands as you walked through the store. When they were in elementary school, you were freely given hugs- at least at home. It’s pretty normal for teenagers to pull away from you- it is all part of discovering who they are as an individual- not as mom and dad’s kid. I make it a habit to reach over and stroke my teenager’s hand whenever she’s riding in the passenger seat of my car, I do high 5s even if I get an eye roll, I give hugs- often. Even if they don’t really feel like it.

#5. When you listen- listen. I get it, we’re all busy. There’s always school work to be done, sports to be shuttled to or from, chores, church, and just life in general. When they were little, they talked ALL THE TIME. Now that mine are reaching the teenage years, they’re actually talking less and less. When they do talk, it’s probably important- at least to them. I’m learning to be intentional when they talk. To purposefully set my phone aside and look them in the eye when they talk. It’s hard- especially if we’re in the middle of a billion other projects. And if you aren’t quite to the teenage years, listen up! Start doing this NOW! It isn’t just a teen thing!

Are you the parent of teenagers? Do you have anything to add?

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5 things your pastor really needs…

If asked, I’m sure everyone would have a different answer. And honestly, none of them would probably be wrong answers. There is A LOT that your pastor needs. I’m just speaking from the experience of having been married to one for (almost) 16 years and this is strictly that- my experience.

#1. He needs prayers. Prayers that are sincere and deeply desiring the Lord’s will. When you pray for your pastor, pray that the Lord will use him to bring honor and glory to His name; that the Lord would put the right people in his life to encourage and uplift him; and that the Lord would give him the clarity he needs to lead his people. Pray for his family as well, and any other prayer requests that he has made known. Be watchful (but not nosey)- if you know he has an extra-busy week, pray that God will give him the energy he needs.

#2. He needs respect. Respect is simply a way of being kind to one another and by thinking about how someone feels. It does NOT mean you have to agree with what is being done or even like the person. It just simply means that you are going to treat a person (ultimately) the way God wants you to treat someone He created! The pastor should be leading the church down the path the Lord desires and sometimes what you want isn’t what the Lord has specifically told the pastor HE wants. This is usually where a church member gets all upset and (unfortunately) stirs the pot because they aren’t getting their way. THIS is where respect comes into play! Your pastor is human- yes, he will make mistakes! But he was placed in the pastor position by God! And your church chose him to lead y’all! SO LET HIM LEAD! He isn’t doing what you want him to do? Refer back to #1! PRAY FOR HIM! Differences happen. But it doesn’t change how you should treat a person. I know of churches who treated us one way- as long as we were doing what they wanted- but as soon as there were differences- we were treated differently. If you find yourself disagreeing often with the pastor, don’t create problems church-wide. It may just be time to move on to worship somewhere else. (Yep, I said it.) It isn’t YOUR church. It’s God’s church. And He has more than one. 😉

#3. He needs family time. Y’all, we have truly been blessed with some good churches who (for the most part) got this. But y’all, I’ve seen it. Churches who call at all hours for all things! Listen, I get the fact that the pastor is your pastor, but he’s my husband- and our children’s father. Be considerate is all we (and any pastor’s family) ask! He will be there- at your beckon call- for anything. He will struggle to say no- no matter how trivial it may be. His pastor heart is huge for you! Call him! Ask him for prayer! Confide in him. Meet with him. Do whatever it is that you need, because you are why he is there. But if it can wait until morning (or office hours or whatever)- let it! His family will thank you! (And so will he!)

#4. He needs support. There is not much that is more disheartening than hearing from your congregation- putting together something that is a result from what you heard- and having nobody (or next to nobody) support it! He is doing his best to lead the way God wants him to- and y’all, the devil does NOT go easy on him. Don’t be a Sunday morning only church member. He needs to know that you are as committed into growing the kingdom of God as he is- and you aren’t if you only show up on Sunday mornings (yep, I said that too). You are missing vital times to serve God and to grow with other Christians if you show up just on Sunday mornings. Sunday School, evening worship, mid-week Bible study, and any other time your church meets- for fellowship, outreach, prayer, or learning- you need to be there. Ok, you’re right, there are times when you cannot be- for various reasons- and if you have an extremely large church there may be too many meeting times to attend them all- BUT, show up enough that he knows you are serious! And while I’m at it- don’t just sit in the back, arms crossed… be an action Christian and MOVE!

Last one…. #5. He needs love. Yeah, I love him- and so do his kids. But love from his church members? Now that’s perfect! He loves you and has your best interest in mind. Show him love! Here’s a tip: find out what your pastor’s love language is and bless him that way. And when all else fails- home-baked goodies are a hit!

(Note: This is all a two way street. Your pastor should be praying for you, and he should treat you with respect. He shouldn’t demand all your time be spent serving at church and there should be zero guilt when you and your family steal away for a much needed weekend at the beach. Above all else, he should be demonstrating Christ’s love in practical ways to and for you! Just remember, he is human and he will fall. Return Christ’s love and offer some much needed grace, a dozen homemade chocolate chip cookies, and a friendly smile. That’s really what he needs.)

What do you think? Agree or disagree? Anything else you would add?

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Breaking Down the Armor of God, Part 2

I recently wrote about the first three pieces of the armor of God, here are the last three pieces!

Shield of faith ~ I won’t lie. I get a little excited when I get to talk about faith. God has grown me and my family a LOT in the (almost) 16 years of being in ministry. We’ve made huge mistakes- resulting from a lack of faith- and we’ve walked through some deep valleys with only our trust in God to keep moving us forward. Faith is mentioned all throughout Scripture. Noah had to have faith to build the ark- especially since it had never rained before. Abraham had to have faith when he climbed up the mountain with only his son- fully intending to sacrifice Isaac. The Israelites had to have faith when they crossed the Jordan River. This is one of my very favorite stories of faith- you can find it in Joshua 3. Raging river (because it was harvest and overflowing) and the priests had to all step into the river. Once all the priests were in the river, the water stood up and created a dry path for the Israelites to cross! WHOOP! WHOOP!!!! Faith is believing without seeing. Faith can seem scary. Faith can seem immature to those who lack it. Y’all… Faith is believing that God is right! YES, living by faith can be tough to do because it requires you to step out into the unknown. Remember those lies from the devil? Worry, stress, doubt, fear, and the past? They will pop up again. It may even come in the form of your best friend… So how do we live daily with the shield of faith? We won’t use it unless a situation arises- much like a nurse doesn’t use a stethoscope until she needs to, yet she keeps it with her just in case. When God tells you to do something, you do it. Without knowing the big picture!

Helmet of Salvation ~ Salvation- easy as ABC (Admit you are a sinner, Believe that Jesus died and rose again after three days to PAY your debt, Confess that Jesus is Lord)- but there is SO much more! Salvation makes you an heir of God (Romans 8:17) and God’s masterpiece (Ephesians 2:10 NLT)! Salvation makes you safe and secure- you are chosen, loved, desired, needed! The helmet gives us our IDENTITY! And once we know WHO we are, we can CONFIDENTLY march on! The lies the devil shouts to us- the lies of being unworthy, unloved, ugly, worthless- can BOUNCE off our armor because we KNOW the truth!

Sword of the Spirit ~ Yep, this is the Word of God. The Bible. “For the word of God is alive and powerful. It is sharper than the sharpest two-edged sword, cutting between soul and spirit, between joint and marrow. It exposes our innermost thoughts and desires.” Hebrews 4:12 It’s simple. We gotta know the Word of God! Intimately know it. The way we quench the devil is the same way Jesus resisted the devil in the desert (Matthew 4). The way we fight against the devil is to recall the Bible verse that counteracts his scheme. Feeling doubtful about your ability? How about Philippians 4:13? Hating yourself? What about Psalm 139:14? Be in the Word. Constantly! Know the Word!

How do you equip yourself with the armor of God?


Adrenal Fatigue & Me

I just didn’t feel right. Something was off, but I wasn’t sure what. I was tired. Oh, so very tired. Tired to the point where all I wanted was to sleep and slept as often as I was given a chance. I couldn’t concentrate. My brain felt thick. Sometimes the room would feel like it was moving- like I was on a boat- when clearly I wasn’t. I couldn’t seem to lose weight. I would snap at any little thing- oh the anger I would feel. I was overwhelmed with life. I would get dizzy, anxious, and feel deeply depressed. All without reason. I had trouble sleeping- and staying asleep- even though I was tired. When I did sleep, it wasn’t restful sleep. The sugar cravings… the amount of hair found in my tub each morning… feeling like my nerves were literally frayed.

This is me.

Let me clarify some things- I’ve always struggled with my weight. I’m a busy, working mom of 4- I’m always going to be tired. It is hard to put into words, but it had all changed from a “normal” to a “something is off”. 

I’m a big proponent of listening to your body. I just knew something was off. I called my PCP and after visiting with him, he ran some blood work. My fasting blood sugar was a little high- but nothing improving my diet and exercise wouldn’t help. Same thing with my blood pressure. Nothing major. That was it. Not the answers I was looking for.

So, I reached out to some of my natural minded friends. One of them referred me to her website where she had written about adrenal fatigue. Jill is a family herbalist and I’ve known her for years. She is definitely someone I trust and someone who has helped me before. The more I read about adrenal fatigue, the more I wondered if it was the root of my problems. Especially since STRESS is a BIG factor and I tend to feel very stressed out.

Thankfully, Jill has wrote about how to heal your adrenals and I am starting the process. I just started this week- eliminating caffeine, drastically reducing sugar, and I ordered some of the supplements she shared on her page. I need to start feeling better and I’m hopeful that in a few weeks I will. I’m not looking for a quick fix, but just overall health!

Do you struggle with adrenal fatigue?

If you are interested in natural living, check out Jill’s website below!

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